Secrets Of A Supermom!
As a working mom this is a blog I always wanted to read.
I know sometimes it could be overwhelming having to coordinate work, family time, spending time with your kids, cooking, cleaning, laundry, trying to stay healthy and all of the extra stuff we do on the daily. We all know being a mom it’s a very rewarding job, there’s nothing better than seeing a smile in your kids but let’s not forget about yourself, you deserve time to enjoy yourself and not feeling guilty about it!
Here are some tips that helps me get through the week and make little so much easier.
Have a to do list
Throughout this last 4 years of being a mom I found that putting everything into a priority list helps a lot. Organizing your tasks with a list can make everything much more manageable and make you feel grounded. Seeing a clear outline of your completed and uncompleted tasks will help you feel organized and stay mentally focused. it will save you time and energy.
Let go of the guilt
Rather than dwell on how you're not with your child, think about how your role in the company is benefitting the family. Perhaps you can afford certain classes or educational opportunities for your children or you're able to put away savings for college. I talk from my own experience, I’ve cried because I feel like I’m not doing enough or a good job being a mom. Everyone’s experience is different and sometimes there’s people around us that makes us feel like we are not doing it right and that the way we are doing it’s wrong. Let them know that the way you’ve chosen to raise your kids is the way you feel is right for you and that you appreciate their opinions and guidance. You know your baby and you know whats best for her/him, at the end of the day thats your child.
Know you’re good enough! (For all the single moms)
I’ve been a “single” mom a little after my daughter turned 1 year old and let me tell you, I’ve had plenty of people telling me I need that father side to raise my child the way it’s “supposed” to be, they could be right in a way but not really… You’re a strong women and you can do it by yourself too! Im not saying raising a child alone it’s the easiest thing ever but it definitely can turned into the best experience of your life. A mother who raises her child alone gives the best of herself to her baby or children. It makes her happy to see them sleeping peacefully in their beds, but when she goes to bed, it is common for her to wake up more than once with a pang in her chest. The fear of not being able to handle it.. is there. It is normal to have thoughts like these, they are not irrational fears, they are real fears that a mother who raises her children alone will have more than once.However, every day is new and every day you accomplish amazing things.
Both men and women can be confidants, guides, set limits, teach what is right and wrong, and be the main source of love for their children… be everything.
Make the Mornings Easier
Avoid starting the day on a frazzled note by getting organized the night before. Pack the kids' lunches, lay out their clothes (plus your own), and have everyone shower. You should also decide what to make for breakfast, and repack the diaper bag, backpacks, purses, or work bags to be placed by the door, right next to your keys, so you can grab them and lock up on your way out. This definitely have helped me sooo much since I like to take my time in the shower and also like to get in a quick and efficient workout/stretch in the morning.
Stay Connected During the Day
Stay connected with your children even when you're not together. If you're going to miss or be late to an older child's event, give her something special in the morning, like a good-luck charm or a personal note. Look into options for filming the event so you can watch it later and not miss a moment. Hang pictures of yourself and your partner so the kids can see your faces or have a nice picture frame on your desk. During your breaks at work, call your child; hearing her can help you get through a rough day, and she'll be comforted to know you're near. One thing I absolutely love it’s that I can be in contact or aware of what my daughter is doing during the day at pre school using an app they call bright wheel, it tells me what she eats, what are they activities she’ll be doing throughout the day, if she took a nap, message the teacher and so on. Amazing!
Limit Distractions and Time Wasters
Be disciplined and set time limits when checking email or making phone calls, things you can do when the kids are sleeping. Reduce TV watching to once a week to maximize time with your partner during the evenings. Try to avoid multitasking, especially when spending time with your children. At your workplace, try to avoid wasting time. Of course you want to have a rapport with coworkers, but numerous email exchanges, casual Internet surfing, gossiping, and long lunches are distractions that will make you less productive. Focus on your tasks at work and talk to coworkers during breaks or lunchtime.
Create Special Family Activities
Making time for your kids is crucial, both during the week and on the weekends, to nurture your family dynamic and allow everyone to bond. If you're pressed for time, have a family breakfast or a family night with board games or movies. Create activities that regularly fit into your schedule so everyone knows what to expect and what to look forward to. Personally we love to watch movies, going to the playground, color, being silly…In the end, it doesn't really matter what you do as long as you do it together.
Spend time with your partner
Remember to nurture your relationship with your partner, who will often be the number one person by your side. Have a date night once a moth at least to get closer, feel rejuvenated, and enjoy each other's company. Often, if you're busy with work and home, your partner is the first to get neglected and spending time together will bring back some excitement to the marriage or partnership and help you to "check in" with each other.
Create Moments for Yourself
By managing time wisely, you can fit in valuable "me" time regularly. A refreshing break will help you recharge while taking care of personal needs. Because your time is divided between your home and your career, make sure to manage your energy well. You can't be an effective spouse or parent if you're cranky, so take time to care for yourself to feel relaxed and effective.Lose yourself in a book before you go to sleep, take a bubble bath once a week, or treat yourself to a spa day. Fit in time for exercise or focus on a hobby. Remember to eat well and get enough rest…simple things that even the smartest moms neglect. Mine is workout, going to the beach or get my nails done :)
Ready to toast the fact that you're an awesome mom? I hope this tips help you get thought the days a little easier and if you already practicing some of this tips feel free to comment down below you’re experiences !!